{"id":18940,"date":"2022-05-10T11:49:42","date_gmt":"2022-05-10T15:49:42","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/resolve.org\/?p=18940"},"modified":"2022-05-10T11:54:27","modified_gmt":"2022-05-10T15:54:27","slug":"nothing-in-the-water","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/resolve.org\/nothing-in-the-water\/","title":{"rendered":"Nothing in the Water"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

I remember once asking a friend who was pregnant if I could have some of her water. I didn\u2019t think it would work, but I wondered if it was worth a try. Years later, another friend posted a picture on social media of her and two women from our church who were pregnant.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cThere must be something in the water because the three of us lovely ladies are all due about a week apart from each other<\/em>,\u201d she said. This time, my reaction was different. At first, the post annoyed me, and then I felt very frustrated and sad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

\u201cIf only<\/em>,\u201d I thought to myself. \u201cIf only there was something as easy as drinking some water that could help me get pregnant.<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Perhaps my reaction was different this time because of all the failed treatments<\/a> we\u2019d had at that point. Or maybe it was because my next-door neighbor was one of the three ladies in the post. I am sure we drink the same water. It didn\u2019t help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Many people have no clue what infertility is like. The reality is that when you have infertility, there is no magic \u201cwater.\u201d You have to just hope and pray with every treatment that maybe this time it will work. Do you know what it\u2019s like to pay over $27,000 to try to have a baby? That\u2019s just to try and get pregnant. It\u2019s hard, especially when none of the treatments work.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My husband and I started trying to have children shortly after we were married. The months of waiting turned into years and had a huge effect on our lives. We had one pregnancy about two and a half years into our marriage. That pregnancy came after an HSG test (a test to check the fallopian tubes). Unfortunately, I miscarried a short time later. That was the only known pregnancy we have had.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Then my husband lost his job, and we stopped seeing doctors. We saw doctors off and on after that, but financial struggles made it difficult. In 2018, we both went to fertility specialists. Since then, there has been one failed surgery for my husband, and we have done three frozen embryo transfers with donated embryos. Over the years, I\u2019ve also had three surgeries to remove polyps and\/or fibroids in my uterus. We are still childless.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

#WeCanALL have empathy. It helps to have others be understanding, be aware of or be sensitive to the feelings of those of us going through infertility. Giving advice is not helpful. Listening to our feelings is. Saying things like \u201cI care about you<\/em>\u201d, \u201cIt\u2019s OK to feel this way<\/em>,\u201d and \u201cI\u2019m here for you<\/em>\u201d can be helpful. Just having a friend to talk to and to give you a hug when times are tough can be a big help.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

My husband and I haven\u2019t decided what is next for us yet. We hope one day we will be able to have a child.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Emily O., UT<\/p>\n\n\n\n

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