{"id":25750,"date":"2022-08-08T12:56:36","date_gmt":"2022-08-08T16:56:36","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/resolve.org\/?p=25750"},"modified":"2025-03-24T11:38:03","modified_gmt":"2025-03-24T15:38:03","slug":"there-is-a-woman-and-wecanall-support-her","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/resolve.org\/there-is-a-woman-and-wecanall-support-her\/","title":{"rendered":"There is a Woman, and #WeCanAll Support Her"},"content":{"rendered":"\n

What you don\u2019t know about infertility<\/strong> is that it feels like you are living a double life. You have the \u201cself\u201d that you present to the world and you have the \u201cself\u201d that is slowly fading away in the shadows, enduring what feels like endless obstacles. Infertility is a 24\/7 minefield of triggers that seem to shift and move with the wind. It is impossible to explain, and there is so much that you don\u2019t know.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What you don\u2019t know about infertility<\/strong> is that there is a woman standing on her front lawn at 9 pm waiting for a shipment of medication<\/a> with a flashlight because she knows her house number is hard to see, and the next steps in her IVF<\/a> protocol depend on making sure the medication is delivered. There is a woman spending HOURS on the phone working through issues with insurance companies, scheduling appointments, deciphering diagnosis codes, and following-up on unanswered questions. She jumps every single time the phone rings because it could be a result or a critical callback. There is a woman waking up at 5:30 am in the dead of winter to go get bloodwork done that she knows won\u2019t have a good outcome. That same woman also has to go to work that day, present at a huge meeting, and is thinking of what shirt or blazer she can wear that will cover her bruises from having been stuck with a needle so many times.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What you don\u2019t know about infertility<\/strong> is that while there are many wonderful clinicians, healthcare, and office staff, you will endure a barrage of insensitivity and gaslighting by those that are supposed to help you. There is a woman who goes into an appointment with so much hope and trust, is asked if she wants to hear the heartbeat of her baby only to be told in the next breath, \u201cGood thing we couldn\u2019t hear it \u2013 doesn\u2019t seem to be doing so well anyway.<\/em>\u201d There is also a woman who has to go into the hospital for yet another D&C and has to state what she would like done with the fetal tissue once her uterus has been emptied. She didn\u2019t know that her baby was fetal tissue to be disposed of.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What you don\u2019t know about infertility<\/strong> is that people will say things to you like \u201cKeep your feet up the first 12 weeks next time \u2013 you need to rest.<\/em>\u201d Did her walking around cause her miscarriage? Another fun one: surprise bills that range anywhere from a $50 co-pay to $5,000 and if you don\u2019t pay within a certain time frame, it will delay your cycle or you\u2019ll be told you cannot get the results until everything is \u201csquared away.\u201d She didn\u2019t know steps in her family-building process could be held hostage.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

What you don\u2019t know about infertility<\/strong> is that there is a woman that silently wishes for a healthy baby every time the clock hits 11:11. This woman wants nothing more than to go back to her old life \u2013 her life where she could trust her body and not feel like a stranger in her own skin.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

That woman is me.<\/strong> And now that you have met me, keep me in mind when you are trying to support someone just like me. I just want to live free, outside of the shadows, and #WeCanAll do things to help me, and other women like me, get there.<\/p>\n\n\n\n

Elizabeth U., NY<\/p>\n\n\n\n

These personal stories have been vetted by RESOLVE to ensure that specific products or service providers are not mentioned. RESOLVE does not edit any details provided by the author in regards to their personal choices or belief.<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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